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(Arkem, photography by Eivind Hansen, used with permission.) The graphics above and below are of my friend, Arkem, a popular entertainer, singer, and songwriter living in the United Kingdom, who probably has even more talent and life experiences that I have yet to learn about. One of my teachers, Sandhi, once gave a talk about how we should all “Live life, full-tilt boogie!” Arkem, I believe, would have made even Sandhi drop her jaw. While my past might appear as if I often l

Today, we are faced with doubts about the simplest facts of life. We can no longer believe everything we see, hear, or read at face value without consulting the source. Yeah. I know. A lot of questions come up, but stay with me on this. · Is the latest video for real or an AI creation? · Is that latest, “Did you hear about…” designed to make our lives better, or make us fear the future, or support our own ideologies? · Is the article we’re reading based on facts, or is it des

Welcome to 2026! As I do from time to time, I’m releasing my blog today to someone I respect and want to feature. His name is Marc Peridis. I met Marc while we were both teaching classes during the COVID pandemic for Tantra 4 Gay Men/T4GM. Since then, we’ve kept in touch, and I’ve sought his guidance on numerous occasions. We spent seven unforgettable days in Spain together in 2024 with a dozen other practitioners like ourselves. I started my tantra work before Marc was born,

"It's so easy!" "Oh... silly... anyone can do that!" "Why do you need help?" And, my favorite one: "All you have to do is... blah, blah, blah." Every video you see on social media is the painstaking result of countless takes, hours of editing, and that's after all the prep that goes into any posting. They make it look easy. But if you've ever tried some dance moves from online, bent yourself into that yoga pose, or done any DIY projects around the house after searching YouTub

Terms come and go. Back in the 1980s, we were all talking about our paradigms and how important they were to having a life worth living. The term is still used today, but not nearly as much. The term unprecedented  has been used in conjunction with global warming, economics, the actions of world leaders, and pretty much any seemingly unsolvable issues. But are they really  unprecedented? History tells us “no.” Let’s look at primarily American issues. First, let’s take immigra

Empathy is one quality that allows us to help one another. As a counselor and tantric sex therapist, this asset is crucial to my work....

Othering is suggesting or demanding that we act differently from the way we feel compelled to present ourselves. The idea of othering is...

Let me start by saying I’m not about “settling” for anything, nor do I feel we should sit back and wait for the universe to send our...

Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay   I got it. More of my clients are feeling it. I’d be surprised if you weren’t, too… at least...

(This blog posting summarizes a recent article by Rebekah Brandes , as published in Nice News . To read Brandes’ original article, see:...

We all have responsibilities. Our job, family obligations, or health conditions might require us to do certain things. We also crave...

In today's fast-paced digital landscape, standing out online is more important than ever. But as I neared my last birthday, understanding...