An Interview

If you have to pick one thing that everyone else should absolutely know about you, what would it be?

If you ask me for my opinion, prepare to get it. I don’t always seem to have a filter on my mouth, but I try to express myself with kindness.

 

What are your hobbies? What do you like to do in your spare time?

I play piano, study new languages, garden, and travel.

 

How do you go that “extra mile” in your life?

I’m not a clock-watcher. I put myself in my clients’ shoes as best I can. I want to be of service to others in whatever way I’m capable of doing. I probably spend more than the average amount of time getting to know my clients before we ever meet.

 

What do you do for fun?

Oh lord – you’ll think I’m so boring! I read voraciously and write books on spirituality, empowerment, and M/M romance novels. I enjoy cooking and spending time in the woods naked (or at a beach, or anywhere else I can be naked alone or with others).

 

Tell us what you consider to be your greatest life experience.

I keep going back to this over and over and over again. A lover and I had a lover, and the latter and I connected on an energetic level like I’d never had with anyone. One night, we were making love, and I had the experience of not being able to determine where I ended and he began. It was like we were one entity and, at the same time, one with everything around it. It was like being on a different plane of existence. That experience was my first look at what it meant to embody tantra in a new and exciting way. In tantra, it’s called “The Oneness” in some interpretations.

 

What makes you stand out from the crowd?

I’m real. I’m not afraid to open myself up to you. And, obviously, my age—if you’re looking for the biggest equipment or a drug-induced, perfect body, that’s not me. My time is valuable, but my clients get more than they bargained for.

 

What are your greatest personal traits?

Sincerity, honesty. and humor ... I love to laugh!

 

What is your niche?

Customized, personal approaches to my clients’ needs. Thankfully, I’ve found that many who advertise online are professional and sincere about serving their clients. Sadly, though, there are men in this field who are only in it for the money. I call those the “blow ‘n go” or “fuck ‘n flee” boys. That’s not me. I’m one of a handful of mature men, and I like to help men enjoy the interactions two or more guys can have and not feel guilty about it afterwards. You may see people advertising that they “do tantra.” Really? Ask them what that means. Within just a few sentences, you’ll know if someone is using the word because it sounds exotic, as opposed to those of us who practice a tantric lifestyle. It’s been my practice for well beyond thirty years.

 

How often do you travel? Do you prefer to travel or are you more of a homebody?

I LOVE to travel and I do it quite often in another line of work. COVID threw a big kink (and not the good type!) around that, but thankfully, places have begun to open again. I probably travel more than most of the people I know. To date, I’ve racked up over nine million miles flown. I’m often in a city just overnight, or for half a day. If you see me in your area and are thinking about getting together, think fast!

Still… there are times when I want to be alone, usually in my own home, to get away from all distractions. Guess that’s part of my Gemini nature.

 

What kind of diet and fitness regimen do you follow?

My eating plan follows the NaturallySlim® method, staying away from sugars and eating well… ice cream is my guilty pleasure… and vodka. I love to cook and I’m not bad at it! To keep in shape, I work out at my gym three times a week, stretch, use yoga poses to keep limber, and practice transcendental meditation twice daily. My self-care also includes a variety of supplements, seeing my massage therapist and my chiropractor every two or three weeks, and keeping up with the appropriate appointments with, and suggestions from, a great collection of medical doctors and a wide variety of holistic, complementary physical and spiritual practitioners.

 

What’s your lifestyle? What makes you who you are?

I live a tantric lifestyle, which I define as one of childlike wonderment, dedication to principles, communication, and honesty. I do my best to live every day with kindness and authenticity.

 

What would you like your followers to know about you that is unique and even a bit personal?

I left this doing this work as a business for over a decade, never thinking I’d return. But I missed it. I missed being able to help guys move through and beyond their fears. It’s one of the most rewarding things I could do, and I’m happy to be rebuilding my clientele. While I admit I thought my age would be a disadvantage, I’ve found it’s one of my best values to my clients.

 

If you and I were on the beach, having some wine and great food, what would you tell me about yourself?

How much I love the energy of the ocean, the waves splashing near us, and how much I love sharing that with you. I’ve lived so much of my life with guilt, regrets, and anger when I was younger. I used to nearly kill myself trying to be what others wanted me to be. I don’t do that anymore—maybe I’m your cup of tea… or not. Either way is fine. We all have our preferences, and I may not be yours. But given the opportunity, I’ll work with you to attain mutual goals and desires.

 

What should others absolutely know about you?

I am brutally honest, but not unkind. My mom used to say I could tell someone to “Go to hell!” and they would ask me for directions… and then thank me.

 

What do you enjoy most about yourself?

I like my smile—it seems to put people at ease.

 

Name 5 things that you can’t live without.

Physical intimacy, books, massage, freedom, and sharing my life with others.

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